Q&A With a Sex-Book Author: Everyone Can Have Great Sex 1The runaway success of the erotic novel “50 Shades of Grey” is shining a spotlight on sexuality and kinky sex like never before. Author Marisa Bennett explores the hidden delights in an Improper Q&A.

Bennett leaves no subject untouched, from spanking paddles to bondage techniques in her book, Fifty Shades of Pleasure (Skyhorse Publishing, June 2012), a guide to kinky sex.

In this exclusive interview, Bennett discusses her inspiration for the book and what why she thinks everyone should have great sex.

Q: What inspired you to write this book?

A: When “50 Shades of Grey” became such a phenomenon – every woman I know was reading it! – I thought there had to be more driving the interest than just a good story. These women need more excitement and fantasy in their OWN bedrooms! So I wrote a book showing readers how to create their own sexy, romantic fantasy.

Unlike a lot of books on kinkier sex, my book is not intimidating and is designed to help people spice up their sex lives, not open a BDSM dungeon. So much of what’s out there on this subject is really
dark and scary to a lot of people. But it can be a lot of fun if it’s presented in a friendly way.

Q: Who is your target audience? I suspect you have lots of female readers. What is their response  to your book?

 A: Women buy most books, so they’re automatically the target audience. But I think my book appeals to couples as well, and to men who want to explore the things in “50 Shades of Grey” that are getting their wives and girlfriends so hot and bothered. The response has been very gratifying – the book is selling well and getting some great reviews on Amazon.

Q: Why is sexuality such a touchy subject for most people to be open about?

A: Personally, I blame the Puritans.

Q: What do you think about “cougars” (older women dating younger men)?

A: I think the term “cougar” as it’s applied to women is beyond offensive. The retro-double standard is a huge reason why, as you point out, it’s difficult for people to be open about their sexuality. Why would a woman express herself honestly if she’s going to be slapped with some derogatory slur as a result?

Q: What message do you want to share with your readers in writing your

A: I hope that readers use my book to have more fun in their own bedrooms, to use their enjoyment of “50 Shades of Grey” to add some sizzle to their sex lives. You don’t have to be a 21-year-old innocent in love with a dangerous billionaire to have great sex.