I tend to be very sure of my taste and style sense. Sure of what looks right on me—until, of course, I’m proven wrong.
Recently I teamed a pink suit jacket with jeans, and all day, I received compliments on how well I looked in pink.
Naturally, after all, pink is my color. I say this tongue-in-cheek because for years I wouldn’t wear pink.
I thought pink was insipid. It had no punch, no personality. Until I found a pink suit. I fell in love with it, bought it, and received so many compliments on how well I looked in pink.
It was definitely my color! Who knew? Now I wear pink very often and love it.
Another example: I’m very small and have a devil of a time buying bras that fit.
I feel about buying a bra the way most women feel about buying a bathing suit. I loathe the experience.
Recently I bit the bullet and was determined to buy a bra that I desperately needed. I went to the lingerie department and told the saleswoman, “I want a 32A triangle without wires or molded cups.”
She told me that she had nothing for me with those specifications but she had a bra in my size with wires and molded cups, which she was sure I’d love.
I was sure I wouldn’t, but she insisted that I try it on. She was right. I did love it and bought three.
Because I’m so small, I always wore small accessories.
A number of years ago, I had a change of heart and started wearing “statement” pieces—large pins, carrying large purses.
To my surprise, I can carry it off and don’t look overwhelmed. Now, I never wear dinky little pieces. I look for things that make a statement.
I’ll wear three necklaces together plus a pin, and it doesn’t look like it’s too much.
I don’t know whether I was wrong all those years when I wore small pieces or, now that I have more self-confidence, I can carry it off.
Don’t be so sure you know what looks good on you. Be willing to experiment and try something new. Who knows? You might find “your” color.
Miriam Silverberg is a freelance journalist and the owner of Miriam Silverberg Associates, a boutique publicity agency in Manhattan. She may be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.